Monday, 28 October 2019

From Dating to a Relationship*

When you start dating, and I don't know about guys, but us girls think about many different scenarios. We wonder about what would happen if we never meet anyone, what would happen if we meet someone and it just doesn't work; if we do and they turn out to be a complete psycho after a couple of weeks. Well, we also consider how bad it could be if we fall head over heels for someone and they just don't feel quite the same.. thus leaving the majority of the 'serious' decisions up to them.

So when you do meet someone after talking to them from a site such as Oxfordshire Dating Site, or meeting them through a friend. Knowing whether you're just crazy for someone or if you actually like this person and are crazy too; is pretty damn important.

Everyone is a fan of being crazy about one another, that feeling of being completely overcome with feeling and emotion. Where you have no control of how you act, how you react and all you do from one moment to the next with each other. We all love that feeling, but it never lasts, at least not as strong as it did, to begin with. 

Time passes and as it does so will the shine of that crazy feeling, that's the time to decide whether you want to really commit to this person. Be the type of person that wants to really be with someone and want to like them even when they're driving you nutty, with the look to become utterly devoted in whatever way you both decide. Being crazy for one another is great, but it's unstable, anything unstable will ultimately never lead to a healthy anything. 

In my personal opinion, the main issue these days with these are the values we hold. Many of the younger generations do not seem to understand the value of loyalty, in turn, the middle-aged generation has also turned off their sense of value and morals. It seems as though my generation (yes I suppose I am middle-aged now), has set out a bad set of guidelines for the younger. With apps such as Tinder, Happn and Bumble, (I suppose Grinder for those that way inclined),  have created this aura that it is ok to swipe right. To go from one person to the next, as soon as you are not happy anymore, something just doesn't work or fit just right.. move on to the next. 

The thing is, committing to something more, taking the initiative to decide what you want to want, want to like, lends yourself to a fuller future. I absolutely love the quote from an old married couple - "We were born in a time, where if something was broken you fixed. You didn't just throw it away." 

Dating can be so much fun, but let's be honest, most of us who are dating are doing it for something more. So why not look at it all without rose-tinted glasses, go in completely bare and be surprised what you'll find.

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Always be kind, you never know what personal battle people are fighting.


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